If you're in ministry (especially ministry to 18-25 year olds) then you understand one of the hardest and most necessary things can be having hard conversations with young adults.
Let me define hard conversation: "Addressing a subject with an individual that will potentially cause anxiety, conflict, or pain."
Steps to think through:
1. Understand that Jesus was confrontational.
Jesus didn't steer away from hard conversations with people. He addressed them head on. Be encouraged. Are they easy? No. Necessary? Yes.
2. Encourage Young adults.
That may sound funny here, but you must develop a habit of encouraging people in the good times. When you are offering encouragement to those around you it makes the hard conversations so much easier.
Hand write letters to youths thanking them for their service. Text students randomly to let them know you are thinking about them and praying for them that day. Stop someone in the hall if you saw them do something well.
The only time some of our youths hear from us is when we are telling them they are doing something wrong. This should not be true. This is a valuable habit (encouraging) to develop.
3. Be patient.
I will not recruit a co workers who doesn't have patience. They would never survive with college-age people. This age stage is very transitional; in more ways than one. They will make mistakes and then make them again. This is normal (not to minimize the problem, but it happens).
4 Don't wait too long.
If you are like me you will sometimes hope the problem will go away without dealing with it. This isn't loving people. It is more destructive to see a problem and not address it than to address it head on.
"Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses." -Proverbs 27:6
5. Compliment Sandwich
Step One: Encourage them in what they are doing right. You can usually find something.
Step Two: Offer some advice on how to change or improve.
Step Three: Conclude by encouraging them to continue to work hard and help them understand we all have moments when we need direction.
What else works for you, post in the comments